binghsien

How to have a conversation about a topic you’re not interested in or don’t know anything about:

  1. Listen to what the other person has to say about the topic.
  2. Ask a question about what they said. Asking them to clarify or explain something you don’t understand is great, but any question will do. All else fails, ask them to explain what they like about some part of the topic.
  3. Listen to their responses and go back to step 2.
  4. Do this until 5-15 minutes has passed, then change the subject to a topic of your interest, unless you are actually interested in learning more on this subject, in which case, go on for as long as you like.
  5. Sometimes, they will say something like “I’m sorry to blather on about [topic].” This is an attempt at a conversational dismount. You can either say “no, it was fascinating, thanks” and then bring up your own topic, or you can say “no, it’s fascinating, please keep going” if you want to keep hearing about their topic. Note the tense difference (past -> moving on, present -> keep going).

I just thought I’d write a script for this, because someone who can’t / won’t do this came up in a Captain Awkward column, and listening about topics you have no interest in is a really useful skill to have and not often explicitly taught, particularly to boys and men.

tfw-adhd

This is really helpful advice for people with adhd/autism because we’re often not great at social skills and holding conversations

the-cassquatch

Ok but like. What the fuck is there to do on the internet anymore?

Idk when I was younger, you could just go and go and find exciting new websites full of whatever cool things you wanted to explore. An overabundance of ways to occupy your time online.

Now, it's just... Social media. That's it. Social media and news sites. And I'm tired of social media and I'm tired of the news.

Am I just like completely inept at finding new things or has the internet just fallen apart that much with the problems of SEO and web 3.0 turning everything into a same-site prison?

dj-of-the-coven

Long collection of resources under the cut.

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xerxestexastoast

ALSO you should consider browsing Virtual Pet List and seeing if there are any pet sites you might be interested in playing. There is a whole genre of browser games right under your nose

sotosot

YOU CAN READ A WEBCOMIC! Here's one.

I explore trading cards! I like browsing through PKMNCards for high quality art and learning about old sets. Scryfall fulfills the same purpose for MTG. I love browsing the art in my free time!

Music Map is a great way to find new music to listen to. It's not always great, but gives me a lot to make my own choice on what to listen to next. Heck, Bandcamp always gives me new releases to preview new songs, admire new artwork, and learn about new artists.

At 5PM I can check the new Fortnite item shop! It's like my daily zodiac cause I usually have a vague idea of what's coming next.

So much cool stuff to do!

chase-prairie

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thinking about what is and what isn't allowed in frame with reference ecosystems in prairie restoration

ariel-s-awesome

Explanation from OP in the replies

restoration ecology tends to want to restore to a past state of an ecosystem, but magically that past state never involved people! Harvest, reciprocity, etc are all ignored because we pretend there's such a thing as prairie without people. Turns out, that imagined prairie never existed, there were always people here and there should people involved in restored prairie too!

nenya-kanadka:
“macleod:
“izze-bizzle:
“beatrice-otter:
“the-adhd-society:
“ adrienaline-rushed-art:
“ littlenobodys-corner:
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ok so people are making fun of this but adding this with other anti-global warming tactics will work
This isn’t adding ice...

littlenobodys-corner

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adrienaline-rushed-art

ok so people are making fun of this but adding this with other anti-global warming tactics will work

This isn’t adding ice just for the sake of denial, it’s adding to the Earth’s albedo. This in turn actually makes the Earth’s climate cooler, and then more ice will be produced naturally because of this.

It isn’t a process we need to continue forever, in fact it’s one that needs to be calculated so that we don’t do it TOO MUCH. The only worry would be cooling down too much.

So yes, this is a good idea. It simply isn’t the only thing we should do because we still have gross pollution.

the-adhd-society

For the love of god do it . anything just do it. Give us hope.

beatrice-otter

Here’s the thing: Most environmental catastrophes humans have ever or are currently creating can be fixed. It’s not just a matter of “oh no, things are ruined, and maybe we can stop the degradation so that things don’t get any worse, but we’re stuck with how things are.” There are some things we can’t do, like bringing back extinct species. But there are a lot of other things we can definitely do, many of which are being done right now. The problem is that most of our willpower and effort is spent on bullshit tiny things that won’t solve the problem (individual recycling, etc.) and not on the large-scale things that can and will make a large-scale difference.

Ice caps are melting? Guess what! We know how to make ice. It’s not that hard. Designing mostly-automated robot ships to go to the poles and rebuild the ice caps is well within our current technical capabilities. We just need to fund it.

Deforestation on a massive scale? Destruction of other biomes? Guess what! We know how to plant trees. We know how to plant grasslands. We know how to take barren, lifeless land and turn it back into a viable biome. It’s not that hard. In a lot of cases, if there’s neighboring areas where that biome still exists, all you have to do is dump a few tons of biomass (plant clippings, food waste, etc.) on the barren land and stand back and wait. The biomass will provide nutrients and keep the topsoil from blowing away, and the plants and animals from the neighboring biome will move in. In two decades, even if you don’t do anything besides dumping the biomass on it, you won’t be able to tell what was the barren area and what was the still-existing biome.

Coral reefs dying? Now, coral reefs are a bit more fragile than most biomes, but guess what! We still know how to replant/rebuild them, and in fact are working on that in places affected by coral reef die-off! And we’re learning how to do it better every day.

Desertification? Guess what! We know how to turn desert back into green space. They’re doing it on a large scale in China and sub-Saharan Africa. There are several different techniques, none of which are even very technology-intensive. It takes money and time and labor, but it’s perfectly doable. We know this because we’ve done it.

Plastic in the ecosystem, particularly in the ocean? Guess what! There’s a lot of people working on this, both on “how to remove plastic from the ocean” and “how to reuse/recycle it more efficiently.” And the techniques are improving by leaps and bounds every year. This is a solvable problem. These are all solvable problems.

So if you’re crushed by the weight of the coming environmental catastrophe … don’t be. These are all solvable problems! We can stop things from getting worse, and we can fix the things we’ve broken. The issue is political, not practical.

On the political side, of course, is the need to tighten up environmental regulations across the globe. (What’s the statistic, that 90% of pollution is caused by 100 corporations?) And then of course, we need to fund these programs on a large enough scale.

In some ways the political aspect is the hardest, but consider this: we are at a tipping point. Things are changing about the way politicians talk about climate change and ecological degradation. More ordinary people are concerned about this, which means more pressure on politicians. One of the ways that things are changing is that people–even conservatives–are starting to talk about “job opportunities in new green fields” and switching the conversation so that it’s not “rainforest vs. jobs” makes political action a lot more possible. And no, it’s not going to happen on its own, but it can happen.

This is a solvable problem.

izze-bizzle

I *needed* this. Climate change has had me feeling SO helpless, having a list of things that can actually potentially be done is beautiful

macleod

Climate change is a technological problem. This statement does not exclude social problems, but the core of the matter is that the fastest most effective way to solving this crisis is through technology.

nenya-kanadka

The corporate bastards WANT you to despair because if we all give up, we stop being a thorn in their side. If people know it’s not hopeless and there’s actually specific things that can be done & will make a huge difference? We’ll keep giving them shit.

Don’t despair. Don’t give up.

(Remember the hole in the ozone layer? And how it’s shrinking now? YEAH!)

bonparadox

cool bugs i found part 27

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she thinks she has developed white body to look cool on black flowers

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little fly and his giant fuckin ШОВКОВИЦЯ im sorry i dunno how you call it in english

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me and my bee watchin the sunset together

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hairy chest :)

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Shoulders

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grandpa bee look at the moustache and grandpa haircut

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bee with blue eyes 🪱🪱🪱

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funny guy hidin

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friens on the ball

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and lesbeeans thats all goodbye

theconcealedweapon

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mycroftrh

I can’t begin to express the difference it makes just that I’m able to wear exclusively t-shirts, baggy shorts, and flip-flops. And the thing is, right. What you notice is that I’m wearing something slightly odd for the weather. What you don’t notice is that I’m not curled up with my hands clamped over my ears because socks make the clinking plates in the restaurant too loud.

roach-works

i am reminded of how my mom's only understanding of autism was the six year old special ed kids she sometimes watched as a substitute teacher despite the fact she's been married to my dad for 36 years

frownyalfred

want your favorite author to update but don’t want to be too pushy in their comment section?

here’s 5 things you can do to encourage them:

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